"ASK THE MASTER COLUMN"..

Yep, that's our MBK. Charming, funny, in your face, and a complete sadist.

I really liked his column a lot. I wrote in a question this month for him. Hope he answers it! You guys must get so many questions.

Yes Z..no pain no gain....or blood flow but that's all your this month....now were did I put that blue pill

I've got a question for Master Knight... why did you change your profile pic from the last one? I loved the needles through the breast. that was so sexy!

I just wanted to say thanks to Master Knight for his answer in the column. I sat down with Master and had a long talk and now things are better than ever. You're great! Thanks!

I have a question for the Ask the Master but I'm gonna ask it here in the forums where I know it will be seen.
Why is it that every Dom I've met is self absorbed, arrogant, and thoughtless of other people? Are they all in it for there own pleasure and screw everyone else? It seems like every one is just so into themselves. Is that a requirement for being a Dom? Even the ones that check up on you the day afterwards or who ask you questions before hand to make sure of your comfort levels can't help being arrogant.
Does the sensitive Dom that can really love you and care for you while still being your Dom NOT exist? Is it an oxymoron to expect?

Rawburner, you are asking a question that I've pondered myself many times. Is it an oxymoron to want a Dominant man who is sensitive at the same time? Tough question with no real answer. I'm going to try anyway but this is MBK's thread so I'm just a participant like you... he gets rights to give you a final answer.
I think its possible to have both. I think it depends on the person. I've met Doms who are hopelessly self involved. TERRIBLY arrogant. I choose not to play with those types. The ones I gravitate towards have a certain level of self awareness and even a sweetness towards their subs. Not too much mind you. I am not a DaddyDom girl. I like em tough and sadistic but with an edge of charm. I want to know they  have my best interest at heart otherwise I couldn't submit to the level I do, but I don't want them so self absorbed that my needs go unmet.
But I do have to say, a Dom is a Dom. I think naturally, anyone who is a Dom carries with them high leadership skills, the ability to take control of every situation, and also the ability to be a bit (or more)egotistical. I think it comes with the package and allowances have to be made the same as anyone would for us being submissive. It's a give and take. It's what you can accept. If the person you are with is too strong a personality and is too much involved in themselves for your comfort, then move on. At some point you will find a balance.
One final thing. As a burner myself I have to ask.... are you talking Burning Man?

HOLY SHIT yes... burning man! It's always good to meet another burner. I knew I liked reading you for a reason.
I get you, what you are trying to say. But I want to hear a man's perspective. So Master Knight, please speeak up.

corsetgirlnyc I just thought this was better...either way both are about lovley sharp objects and flesh...

Yes Z..no pain no gain....or blood flow but that's all your this month....now were did I put that blue pill

-mbknight

I just wanted to say thanks to Master Knight for his answer in the column. I sat down with Master and had a long talk and now things are better than ever. You're great! Thanks!

-animebabe119

Thank you!!! I am glad that you took the advise, communication works no matter what the lifestyle. Have fun!

I have a question for the Ask the Master but I'm gonna ask it here in the forums where I know it will be seen.
Why is it that every Dom I've met is self absorbed, arrogant, and thoughtless of other people? Are they all in it for there own pleasure and screw everyone else? It seems like every one is just so into themselves. Is that a requirement for being a Dom? Even the ones that check up on you the day afterwards or who ask you questions before hand to make sure of your comfort levels can't help being arrogant.
Does the sensitive Dom that can really love you and care for you while still being your Dom NOT exist? Is it an oxymoron to expect?

-rawburner

Well raw...you really have to understand the game a bit to answer this. But in reality all of us top and bottom can be a bit absorbed with ourselves. I don't really find what you're talking about in many people in the lifestyle. I have meet some truly great people and some that fit your description too, but for the most part I see people pushing the boundaries and exploring sex in a whole new way and they are super people. As players become more confidant in there skills I can see how this could come off as arrogant...but it is impossible to take a bottom (as a top) into another head space and be self self absorbed. As part of the pleasure of taking the bottom there you have to be aware of what you are doing, reading and responding to the play. Also if your a dominate person your going to have a bit of arrogance and confidence this does not make you insensitive or a bad person and I think the traits are important, especially confidence in knowing what your doing. Now i have a sadistic streak so to add to it raw...sometimes I just don't care, I want what I want and I am taking it...in a SSC way of course. ;-). So I might be one of those you talk about....so raw...I not here to love you..I am here to turn your ass a shade of purple so it matches my drapes....just my 2 cents...Hope my ramble helps in some way

Wow, I LOVED your reply in the ask themaster column to my question. Very helpful. Thanks so much!

I agree with MBK. I think the problem comes down to women not seperating sex and love. yes I know Im about to get totally flamed for that but true. Like the man said. We're not here to love you.

1. Thanks MBK for the column info. Very cool.
2. JustDavid's attitude sucks. There's nothing wrong with loving your subs or them loving you back. It depends on the situation and the person. I love my girl and it doesn't make me feel any less dominant with her.

Well fuck I new I'd get flamed but didn't think it would be from a dude.

Lighten up guy

Yay a flame war!!! Here's the part where I get to tell you two to behave or I'll get my flying monkeys and have them escort you none too gently out after I plant a boot print on your butts.

MBK is exempt. He gets to be rowdy at his discretion.

LOL your such a bitch Lilwhip. I dig it.

C'mon you're a girl, give us your opinion.

What the hell... why is it always men jabbering about how "it's not love it's sex" and women getting pissed off. What's WRONG with love 1. and if you don't want love that's fine too 2. Dont' seperate it into men and women there's types on both sides.