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I've actually found that being me - a nice guy who respects people, treats women well, has intellectual interests, liberal views on women's rights - really rarely works in the lifestyle. When I whip up an entirely false persona, an arrogant bastard, he's usually more attractive to submissive girls. I'm sure this won't be received well, but whenever I hear or read that a submissive girl wants to be treated a certain way, I'm skeptical. It rarely matches the reality I see them in, whom they respond to, or who they view as "Dominant." In choosing between "Go hard or go home" and "be yourself" the first has always been the more successful strategy in generating that other odious cliché of the mating game, Chemistry.

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David - thanks for your interest in reading trufetish and posting on the forums. I really do look forward to feedback. No, Marquis and I didn't plan on writing articles touching the same subjects - I was a little rushed this month, and typically I cover some aspect of play rather than mental states. I see more similarities in Marquis and my articles than differences. My main theme was that your "role" in the lifestyle is self-defined, although there are some indicators that reinforce that definition. I doubt Marquis would disagree (ha -I'm going to play his "don't you agree" game with him) and he provides the example that he considers himself a Master (and I certainly respect him as such) although he is not adhering to some orthodox vision of how frequently a Master should play with certain toys. I am going to reread both of our articles and think on this more, and I'm certain our approaches might be different, but our underlying thesis is the same. As it should be, for I am Marquis favorite pervert, and he is the only man I deem too damn handsome for his own good.

It is, indeed, a form of roleplay, and it can be public or pivate. At its most elaborate, the costumes are very extensive and yes, I have heard of Pony Play being very public and showy (in BDSM events). Competitions might be graded as show-pones, where experienced "judges" would grade on form and aesthetics. Cart-pulling competitions are self-explanatory. I have not been THAT involved in Pony Play roleplay to experience cmpetitions firsthand. It is a very lively and passionate subset of the lifestyle.

I might better refer the response to this question to a friend who enjoyed ponyplay vis-a-vis the role of the pony -- but let me handle it myself a bit. In general the pony is the bottom/submissive in the roleplay, so it plays into the fantasies of surrender many submissives harbor; taking up the role of an "animal" the "rights" that you have as a person are gone (interesting aside - I have taught a lit class on ethics and animal rights; one of the major issues there is as non-speaking subjects, animals are easily objectified). Hence the bottom's fantasies of humiliation, objectification and exhibition can be fulfilled. There are plenty of subs who are "pleasers" and a well-trained pony getting encouragement and positive reinforcement from her Master is also an aspect of Pony Play. That positive reinforcement can be verbal or physical - if the Pony pleases, she might be rewarded after by erogenous stimulation. And depending on the bondage/outfit utilized by the Pony, constant physical stimulation can be a part of Pony Play.