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Re: Sex and Magic by AJB

Your most excellent wretch or wench, love? Did you write that before morning coffee?! Lol

Re: Sex and Magic by AJB

I think my newest boy might have an issue with that, Justdavid... ;)

Re: Fetish preference lilwhip

Thank you thank you! It's always great to get positive feedback!!!

Re: Sex and Magic by AJB

I have to agree with you guys/girls... For the last few months, AJB has been churning out some brilliant work. That's my boy!! ;)

Re: Unmasking Reality was a great read!

It was indeed a great read, thanks so much for contributing!!

Re: Fetish preference lilwhip

Hey guys... nice to see people on here again. I'm sorry, I didn't realize we had an issue with forums. My bad! Whatever it was, it's fixed now! Thanks for the compliments on this edition!

sorry out there

I'm sorry all, I have not been keeping up on the forums... with new members and new posts... because I've been sidetracked. Recently I was laid off from my day job, which was very trying. I'm still looking for gainful employment and have a few good leads but it's touch and go, of course. And more importantly... well I'm in love again. Big surprise right?

It's been keeping me... distracted and a little overwhelmed. Wish me luck. And I promise, I'll get back on task with TF.

Love to you all.
Lilwhip

Re: AUGUST.. "I Wonder About This World Sometimes"... By Marquis

I am not shocked at all. You are difficult, moody, and downright brilliant. THAT is why we stay friends, and why you keep writing for me. I hope I never lose you as a writer.

Re: Welcome Message to New Members

No, we have already surpassed it. The forums didn't come into being until months later than the initial launch

Re: Deiter in photographs

Thank you! Deiter is a great photographer and the shoot was so much fun.

They say the best revenge is living well... in this case... the best revenge is living well AND being hot as fuck!

~L

Re: Tricksie Jones

NO! Unfortunately I cannot take credit for such biting brilliant sarcasm as Tricksie is capable of. Wish I could! Tricksie is all her own person... and a hot smart sexy little person she is!

July 1st Next TF Release

Everyone please remember that our next TF release will be July 1st. May and June were sort of smashed together in all the ruckus last month and I'm giving myself and my writers some extra time to polish their content.

I have a great new photographer lined up as well, so stay tuned!! We've got some good stuff coming your way.

Love,
Lilwhip

Re: Dysfunction in D/s

Hello newbees127,

Thanks for the comments. I couldn't agree more that addictive personalities have a tough time in the BDSM world. And you are correct that with the right partner, and some careful monitoring of your own behavior, this can be controlled so the interaction remains healthy.

I do wonder if what you are describing though is few and far between... especially when you get into a 24/7 situation. I personally believe that a sub (any sub) cannot experience a 24/7 deep submission without developing feelings for their Dom that go far beyond just D/s, which complicates things further- especially if those feelings are not returned.

Anybody out there in similar situations (one of you has an addictive personality) who have managed to have a good, long, healthy D/s relationship?

Lilwhip

Re: Lochai's Ask the Master

I am popping on to take a bow for Lochai, as he is currently en route to Shibaricon and cannot answer you himself. Thanks for the compliments on his behalf and we look forward to seeing his next column answers in July!

Re: Dysfunction in D/s

Thank you Redrobin. That's a wonderful compliment. I'm glad you enjoyed the article and appreciate your continued patronage of the site.

Re: Dysfunction in D/s

LOL DAVID! You are incorrigible. Thank you, I needed a good laugh.

Lochai's Ask the Master

Okay forum buddies... let's give Lochai some feedback on his first installment of Ask the Master!

Re: Dysfunction in D/s

Hello All,

Although I thank you kindly for your supportive words... I have two things to say:

1. Remember it takes two to tango. This was not "done to me"... I'm a big girl and I make my own decisions. And that's all any of you need to know about it.

2. afernandez is correct in that you need to go past the personal experience related in this article and see the bigger message. All of you who have been reading my work for the last couple years know that while I often use personal experience in my articles to illustrate a point... there is a point to be made and that is the crux of the article, not the experience itself.

It is important in D/s to be able to see yourself, and the other person, with a clear eye at all times. It's important as a submissive to keep an innate sense of self worth despite the excitement and intense satisfaction of submitting. Remember, as someone very dear to me said once... that you ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE. Choose wisely. Choose for YOUR OWN HAPPINESS... Not for someone else.
And it's important for Dom to remember that submission is a gift- not to be taken lightly- not to be taken advantage of- and not to be thrown under the bus as expendable when things go sour. Domination is a responsibility even during casual play.

That's all I have to say on this. If you would like to speak more about these points in the forums, I would welcome your comments... but there will be no further speculation on my personal life- any further posts of this nature will be deleted.

Again, thanks for your support.

Exhibitionism by Marquis

C'mon kiddles, let's answer the question Marquis addressed in his article this month...

"I do dress up at fetish parties, I do work over my submissive in public, I do have group sex, I do feature in pictures and I have even done a few things I probably shouldn’t have in movie theaters, beaches and airplanes. I have even performed at an erotic art show and will admit to loving it. Yet, I am hesitant to call myself an exhibitionist and I’m not sure why. I don’t go to nude beaches, though I am not opposed to it.  Is that what exhibitionism means?

I don’t know. But I want to hear what exhibitionism means to you. See you all in the forum!"

Re: One month break

Hello All,
 
I am back in action... thanks for all the well wishes.
 
OOookay! Things are gearing up for a new month. Since I got started a little late, this month's releases will cover May/June together, so the next release after this will hit July 1st. Everyone clear on this?
 
We have a NEW Ask the Master, the well known and highly respected Lochai will be taking over the column, and I couldn't be more pleased to have him aboard. Lochai is also a very dear friend of mine so please give him a warm welcome.
 
Kiki Veronica will be making a reappearance in our articles- she's a fine writer and I'm thrilled to have her contributing to TF again. Welcome back, Keeks.
 
And of course Marquis and I will be releasing articles this month as well. I do have a photographer to feature- but am not releasing any details on that yet. You'll see when the next issue hits. Which should be in about four or five days. Stay tuned!! 
 
Feelin good and glad to be back...
-lilwhip

Re: "ASK THE MASTER COLUMN"..

Hey Zorba, (and others!)

The Ask the Master column has recently changed hands

I want to welcome the well known and highly respected Lochai (also a very dear friend of mine) as he takes over the column. We're thrilled to have him aboard and are excited to publish his first answers this month!
www.kiriwana.com
 

Zorba, Your question will be addressed in July's column! Thanks for waiting as we reassemble our team and update TF!

Stay tuned, TF updates coming VERY soon...
Lilwhip

Re: One month break

Mia be nice.

No one said anything about any reasons why I need a break. Behave or I will sick Zelle on you and trust me... she makes me look like a pussycat.

One month break

Hello TF Readers,

I, Lilwhip, will be out of touch for approximately one month while I handle some personal issues. Please behave yourselves in the forums during that time. Zelle is in charge in the meantime and I'm giving her full power to boot your ass if you are bad. :) Updates to Trufetish will resume June 1st- in the meantime, writers feel free to blog thoughts and scribbles of any sort here in the forums to keep our readers satisfied.

To my friends.. keep me in your thoughts during the next month.

See all of you June 1st. Much love!

Lilwhip- Over and Out.

Re: Know Thyself

I think Marquis made a lot of very good points here.

I have to add one that I was taught long ago by a very good friend. Alcohol and play to do not mix well. If you've been indulging, hold off on any new, intense play... You could end up badly hurt and/or regretting your decisions.... as it seems you've done.

Being overwhelmed by a Dominant is one of the most incredible experiences a sub can ever have. Truly giving over power is what we all crave... but it takes finding that someone you trust absolutely in order to do so.  I personally could not do it without knowing the Dom I give myself to has my best interest, health, and sanity at heart. I trust absolutely in his ability to judge how much I can take. He's taken me the brink and beyond a few times... but never so far that I couldn't reassemble afterwards. And that in my mind is what it's all about.

And remember... when you say "you can hurt me all you want but just do no harm"... that's different for everyone. I don't mind bruises, bite marks, scars, tears, abject humiliation as long as the Dom dishing it out is MY Dom of MY choosing. And limits are different for everyone. You need to qualify what "hurt me but do no harm" means... to you ... and then express it to whomever is doing the hurting.

Lilwhip off her soap box now. :)

Re: NoxPhotography

I am sure NoxPhotography will appreciate your comments, I'll be sure to pass them on. The model is a very good friend of mine and the photographer is her husband.